Can’t Fight the Feeling

The local public radio station features a weekly program called Voices in the Family.  At first, uh, listen, it’s not exactly an attention-grabber.  Dr. Dan Gottlieb, the host of the show, is soft-spoken, and and kind of seventies melllloooowww.  But  you know what they say about books, and judging them by their covers.

Dan calls ‘em like he sees ‘em, and most of the time, he takes a pretty no nonsense line on all things psychological.  I don’t often listen to the show, mostly because I’m not anywhere listening to the radio when it’s on, but periodically I catch a bit of him, like yesterday, when he was being interviewed for a segment on “soft addictions.”

Soft addictions are those kind of socially acceptable activities that can, if we allow them to take the place of actively living our lives and engaging in meaningful other activities like having relationships and doing stuff, take over and make us zombie mutant boring drone people who ignore our children to play World of Warcraft or shop online obsessively or sacrifice valuable sleep eight days a week in order to be at the gym by 5 a.m. for that all important time on the elliptical.  That’s the scientific description.  Or something like that.  As Dr. Dan Gottlieb described yesterday, and I’m sure I’m getting this at least 2.6% correct, we tend to become addicted to our predominant emotion.  So if we’re naturally risk taking people by temperament, we can easily become addicted to risk taking behaviors.  If we’re temperamentally susceptible to needing attention from people, we become addicted to attention-seeking behaviors.  If we’re naturally morose, we become addicted to moping around, etc…

Which makes sense.  Does it not? 

But what does that mean about the addiction to addiction?  Because I think that’s what I have.

Which would explain the vast amount of sugar free, fat free chocolate pudding in my refrigerator at the moment.

And possibly also why I periodically have to remove the game “Bejeweled Blitz” from my computer.

Don’t judge me.

I’m soft.

Comments

  1. Lois says:

    5 element acupuncture believes the same thing – you approach everything in your life according to your predominant element. Earth’s tend to stock up on sugar free pudding…they also are frequently in the caring professions – like teaching. Just saying. I am addicted to the Huffington Post.

  2. Kelly says:

    Like Lois, I’m addicted to huffpo. And also Jezebel. And Jewel Quest. And coffee. And tacos. And anxiety.

  3. Gwen says:

    My current soft addiction is knitting. I learned how to do the basic knit stitch six weeks ago (about the time of my last blog post) and, hand to God, I absentmindedly casted on 15 stitches while standing in my kitchen talking to my mom today. At least it’s not meth.
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  4. Sandi says:

    Since I’m perfect I don’t have this problem

  5. Lora says:

    yep. even emotions that are considered “bad” can be addictive and we find ways to feed that addiction.

    Anger gets you going? Staying on top of politics (especially ones we don’t agree with) fuels the anger while making us look intelligent and up to date with current events.

    Depression? Oh yes. Holler. Who doesn’t love a good case of the mopes? Veiled in lying on the couch watching movies, of course. The classics if you’re a snob.

    I love emotions. I am addicted to reading all about them and studying scientific theories about why we do what we do. And by reading, I get to sit still. Because I love sitting still.
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  6. So the reason I’m so annoyingly optimistic and happy all the damn time is because I’m addicted to it and not because I’m actual happy? GAH DANG IT.

    Now I’m pissed. Hope I don’t get addicted to that.

    Also? Addicted to online scrabble. Shhhh…
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  7. yep. even emotions that are considered “bad” can be addictive and we find ways to feed that addiction. Anger gets you going? Staying on top of politics (especially ones we don’t agree with) fuels the anger while making us look intelligent and up to date with current events. Depression? Oh yes. Holler. Who doesn’t love a good case of the mopes? Veiled in lying on the couch watching movies, of course. The classics if you’re a snob. I love emotions. I am addicted to reading all about them and studying scientific theories about why we do what we do. And by reading, I get to sit still. Because I love sitting still.

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