The local public radio station features a weekly program called Voices in the Family. At first, uh, listen, it’s not exactly an attention-grabber. Dr. Dan Gottlieb, the host of the show, is soft-spoken, and and kind of seventies melllloooowww. But you know what they say about books, and judging them by their covers.
Dan calls ‘em like he sees ‘em, and most of the time, he takes a pretty no nonsense line on all things psychological. I don’t often listen to the show, mostly because I’m not anywhere listening to the radio when it’s on, but periodically I catch a bit of him, like yesterday, when he was being interviewed for a segment on “soft addictions.”
Soft addictions are those kind of socially acceptable activities that can, if we allow them to take the place of actively living our lives and engaging in meaningful other activities like having relationships and doing stuff, take over and make us zombie mutant boring drone people who ignore our children to play World of Warcraft or shop online obsessively or sacrifice valuable sleep eight days a week in order to be at the gym by 5 a.m. for that all important time on the elliptical. That’s the scientific description. Or something like that. As Dr. Dan Gottlieb described yesterday, and I’m sure I’m getting this at least 2.6% correct, we tend to become addicted to our predominant emotion. So if we’re naturally risk taking people by temperament, we can easily become addicted to risk taking behaviors. If we’re temperamentally susceptible to needing attention from people, we become addicted to attention-seeking behaviors. If we’re naturally morose, we become addicted to moping around, etc…
Which makes sense. Does it not?
But what does that mean about the addiction to addiction? Because I think that’s what I have.
Which would explain the vast amount of sugar free, fat free chocolate pudding in my refrigerator at the moment.
And possibly also why I periodically have to remove the game “Bejeweled Blitz” from my computer.
Don’t judge me.